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Green Light
Working with jealousy and envy using DBT
Jealousy protects something you have. Envy points at something you want. Neither is a character flaw, and neither is a verdict on your relationship — they're urges, with a signature compulsion behind them: checking. The phone scroll, the profile re-check, the comparison spiral. Checking buys about ten seconds of relief and teaches the brain to check again at the next spike. This program runs chain analysis to find where a skill can enter, a declining weekly ceiling on checking, and opposite action for spikes that don't fit the facts.
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- 이런 분들께 적합해요
- For anyone whose jealousy or envy has a compulsion attached to it: the phone checked one more time, the profile re-read for a different meaning, the comparison spiral that eats an evening. Not for managing someone else — this program is about what happens in you.
- 프로그램 소개
- A structured 6-week DBT program for jealousy & envy, built from the protocol clinicians use.
- 형식
- 10–15 min/day — coach videos, a jealousy-urge log, and a weekly review that adapts your plan.
- 가격
- First week free — including your baseline checking report. Then $99, one-time — not a subscription.
The loop has a shape, too
- The phone checked one more time, for a feeling that lasts ten seconds.
- A profile re-read looking for a different meaning.
- A comparison spiral that eats an evening.
- Envy that arrives with shame attached, so it never gets looked at directly.
- Reassurance that works briefly and then needs topping up.
Your log brings the ceiling down
Not a course you watch — a loop you run. Green Light counts the checking episodes you actually have, then sets a weekly maximum that declines from your own baseline — the response-prevention mechanism, aimed at a relationship rather than a body.
Measure
A sixty-second log after any spike — what set it off, how loud it ran, whether you checked, and whether you took the opposite action instead.
as it happens · 60 secLearn
Short sessions with Nathan teach the method — the two jobs, the checking compulsion, chain analysis, urge surfing, opposite action.
10–15 min · most daysAdjust
The weekly review sets next week's checking ceiling, declining from your own measured baseline.
weekly review↻ the loop runs weekly — six times
This isn't a target you hit or miss — it's a weekly maximum on checking episodes that comes down from where you actually started. The same math health-anxiety response prevention uses, pointed at a relationship instead of a body. Distress usually rises before it falls when checking drops; the program predicts that openly rather than treating it as failure.
Six weeks, one method
Fifteen sessions and five weekly reviews. The first week is free — including your baseline checking report.
Week 1What Jealousy and Envy Are ForTwo jobs, one loop3회 세션
Week 2The ChainLights on, never blame3회 세션
Week 3The Urge to CheckSurf it, delay it, or turn toward your life4회 세션
Week 4Reducing the BehaviorA ceiling coming down4회 세션
Week 5What Checking Was Standing In ForThe conversation, the compass, the foundation4회 세션
Week 6Trusting Without CheckingYour data, your standing practice2회 세션
Nathan
DBT: crisis & impulse · 4개 프로그램을 이끌고 있습니다
The crisis-and-impulse specialist — calm, direct, built for the moment right before you do something you'll regret. Nathan's whole job is the sixty seconds between urge and action.
“Hi, I'm Nathan. Over the next six weeks we're not going to talk you out of feeling jealous — we're going to bring the checking down, and find out what it was standing in for.”
Urge mechanics, plus response prevention
Green Light applies the DBT urge and compulsion mechanics — the spike-crest-fall curve, opposite action, and chain and solution analysis — to the signature compulsion behind jealousy and envy: checking and monitoring. The titration reuses the checking-reduction discipline from health-anxiety response prevention, with the same math aimed at a relationship rather than a body.
- Urge mechanicsspike-crest-fall, urge surfing
- Opposite action
- Chain and solution analysis
- Checking-reduction targetsresponse prevention
Your experience — never someone else's phone
This program treats your own jealousy and envy, and never surveillance or control of another person. Checking that has crossed into monitoring a partner's devices or location without consent, restricting their contacts, or demanding access as a condition of trust routes to a plain referral and restricts the program to the internal-experience track. Nothing locks — but the monitoring content does not open.
The reverse flag matters just as much: jealousy that is a reasonable response to a confirmed deception, or to an unsafe relationship, routes to relationship-focused work by name — because the target there is the relationship, not the jealousy. Both referral chips persist after graduation. This is not medical or relationship-therapy advice.
Green Light, 다른 서비스와 비교하면
| Green LightResiliens | RetroactiveJealousy.com (Zachary Stockill)retroactivejealousy.com | Jealousy CBT Tools (Excel At Life)play.google.com | |
|---|---|---|---|
| 가격 | $99 일회성 결제 (정가 $149) — 프로그램은 이제 당신의 것입니다 | $397 per course; $5,000 for 12 weeks of 1:1 coaching | Free, ad-supported |
| 구성 | 6주 · 15회 세션 + 주간 리뷰 | Fixed video sequence — 11+ hours across six sections in one course, eight weeks of daily video lessons in the other. Self-paced, no measurement | A toolbox rather than a program — no weeks, no sequence, no completion. A 'Why Are You Jealous?' test scoring six underlying fears, a cognitive diary, mood log with graphs, articles, and an audio that coaches you through a jealous episode |
| 개인 맞춤화 | Jealousy-urge log → checking baseline → a ceiling coming down | None | The fear-profile test shapes which material is relevant; nothing is measured over time or titrated |
| 사람의 지원 | 자가 진행 · 임상 전문가 연계 기준 내장 | None in the courses; coaching is a separate $5,000 product | None. Data stays on the device and can be emailed to a therapist |
| 이용 방법 | 셀프서비스, 오늘 바로 시작 | Web only — no iOS, no Android | Free on Google Play; no iOS version exists |
| 프로그램 범위 | 70개 이상의 프로그램 카탈로그 · 관련 프로그램 2-3개 묶음 할인 | Retroactive jealousy specifically: jealousy about a partner's past. Not envy, not rival-focused jealousy, not comparison — though bonus modules on compulsive reassurance-seeking come closest to the checking mechanic | Explicitly scoped to irrational romantic jealousy, excluding delusional and rational jealousy. No envy. Its own screening questions name checking and reassurance-seeking — but it offers no protocol to bring them down |
| 플랫폼 | Web · iOS · Android | Web | Android |
출처: 경쟁사 가격 및 프로그램 페이지 — 모든 실제 수치에는 출처 URL과 확인 날짜가 함께 표기되며, 공개되지 않은 정보는 추측하지 않고 "공개되지 않음"으로 표시됩니다.
우리가 다르게 만든 이유
- A ceiling that actually comes down. Naming the checking is where the rest of this category stops. Green Light counts your episodes and sets a weekly maximum that declines from your own baseline — the response-prevention mechanism, pointed at a relationship.
- Jealousy and envy, not just a partner's past. The leading products treat retroactive jealousy alone. Both urges are here, with envy treated as a compass worth reading rather than a flaw to suppress.
- A screen that routes you away from the wrong door. Checking that has crossed into monitoring someone routes to referral and closes that content off — which matters in a category whose search results are crowded with apps built to help you surveil a partner.
무료로 시작하세요. 효과가 있을 때만 계속하세요.
첫 주
- Onboarding + two full sessions
- Jealousy-urge log
- Your baseline checking report
전체 프로그램
- All six weeks of Green Light, yours to keep
- Every session, review, and exercise
- Web + Untangle app access
여러 가지를 동시에 다루고 계신가요? 관련 프로그램은 묶어서 진행할 수 있습니다 — 두세 개를 할인된 가격으로. 번들 가격 정책은 곧 제공될 예정입니다.
시작하기 전에
Is this about catching a partner out?
No — the opposite, explicitly. This program works on what happens in you before you ever touch their phone. Checking that has crossed into monitoring someone without their consent routes to referral and closes that content off.
What if my jealousy turns out to be justified?
Then jealousy isn't the thing to treat, and the program says so. A confirmed deception or an unsafe relationship routes you by name to relationship-focused work, because the target there is the relationship.
Is envy the same as jealousy here?
No, and the distinction does real work. Jealousy protects something you have; envy points at something you want. Week five treats envy as a compass worth reading rather than a flaw to suppress.
How much time does it take?
Sixty seconds after a spike, and ten to fifteen minutes most days for the session. Logging hours late is fine.
비용은 얼마이고, 구독제인가요?
첫 주는 무료이며, 카드 등록이 필요하지 않습니다. 전체 프로그램은 $99로 일회성 결제이며, 구독이나 해지 절차가 없습니다. 프로그램을 완료하면 계속 소유하실 수 있습니다.
효과가 있는지 어떻게 알 수 있나요?
시작할 때 검증된 설문지를 작성하고, 매주 진행되는 리뷰마다 다시 작성하므로 진행 상황을 연속 기록이 아닌 숫자로 확인할 수 있습니다. 6번의 주간 리뷰를 거치며 프로그램이 본인의 데이터를 기반으로 계획을 조정하며, 숫자가 변하지 않는다면 그 사실도 확인하실 수 있습니다.
Get the green light
Start the first week of Green Light free — onboarding, two full sessions, your daily log, and your baseline report. Continue only if it's working.
첫 주는 카드 등록이 필요 없습니다. 전체 프로그램은 $99이며, 일회성 결제입니다 — 구독이 아닙니다.