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Speak Up
Building assertiveness with CBT
Assertiveness isn't becoming louder or harder — it's the radical idea that your needs get a seat at the table you're already sitting at. This program builds the sentence, then the nerve, then the habit: the four-part formula, a no that stands on its own, your predictions of rupture put on trial against what actually happens, and a graded ladder back into every room you've been swallowing in.
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- 适合人群
- For anyone who replays the sentence they didn't say, ends up everyone's default yes, carries quiet resentment about needs never voiced, and calls it 'keeping the peace' while the tab quietly runs.
- 项目介绍
- A structured 6-week CBT program for assertiveness & boundaries, built from the protocol clinicians use.
- 形式
- 10–15 min/day — coach videos, an assertion log, and a weekly review that adapts your plan.
- 价格
- First week free — including your baseline speak-up report. Then $99, one-time — not a subscription.
The swallow has a shape, too
- The sentence you didn't say, replayed on a loop afterward.
- Being everyone's default yes, even when you meant no.
- Quiet resentment about needs that never get voiced — and calling it 'keeping the peace.'
- A tab that keeps running on favors nobody asked you to pay.
- Dread that outruns what actually happens when you speak up.
Your assertion log drives the program
Not a course you watch — a loop you run. Speak Up reads your predicted reactions against what actually happens, and prescribes your next rung, the same way assertiveness training works in a therapist's office.
Measure
A twenty-second evening check-in — did you swallow anything today — plus a forty-five-second log whenever an opportunity comes up.
daily + as it happensLearn
Short sessions with Sofia teach the method — the four styles, the bill of rights, the formula, the no.
10–15 min · most daysAdjust
The weekly review reads your prediction gap and guilt level, and prescribes your next rung on the ladder.
weekly review↻ the loop runs weekly — six times
A rung on your assertion ladder clears once your predicted reaction is demonstrated worse than what actually happened, on two separate reps, with guilt rated 4 out of 10 or lower. Endured isn't the bar — evidenced-and-eased is.
Six weeks, one method
Seventeen sessions and six weekly check-ins. The first week is free — including your baseline speak-up report.
Week 1Understand the StylesFour corners, one that keeps both in the room3 节课程
Week 2The FormulaBuild the sentence, then the nerve4 节课程
Week 3The NoA complete sentence, warmly held4 节课程
Week 4The PredictionsYour dread, on the record4 节课程
Week 5The Harder RoomsUpward, family, and the repair4 节课程
Week 6Keep the SeatYour story, your drill, your plan3 节课程
Sofia
Action & habits · 指导 4 个项目
The practical change coach — direct, encouraging, allergic to lectures. Sofia works in small experiments and honest reviews of what actually happened.
“Hi, I'm Sofia. Over the next six weeks we're not going to make you louder — we're going to make sure your needs make it into the room, in your own voice.”
Assertiveness training, faithfully built
Speak Up implements the classic CBT assertiveness-training protocol — the four communication styles, the assertive bill of rights, the situation-feeling-need-request formula, saying no as a complete skill with the guilt-decay curve and broken-record technique, and a graded assertion hierarchy tested with prediction-versus-outcome behavioral experiments.
- Assertiveness trainingSmith; Alberti & Emmons
- Situation-feeling-need-request formula
- Graded assertion hierarchy
- Prediction-versus-outcome behavioral experiments
One serious carve-out
Speak Up screens at onboarding for relationships where speaking up has been met with violence, threats, or escalating control. Where that's true, assertiveness training isn't the right tool — and using it can raise risk rather than lower it — so that track pauses and routes to a specialist domestic-abuse or safety-planning service instead. That's a limit on the method, never a judgment on you.
A cultural-calibration note runs throughout: the situation-feeling-need-request formula is the constant; how directly you turn it up — how loud, how formal, how softened — is entirely your own call, not a single prescribed bluntness.
免费开始。有效果再继续。
首周
- Onboarding + two full sessions
- Daily check-in + assertion log
- Your baseline speak-up report
完整项目
- All six weeks of Speak Up, yours to keep
- Every session, review, and exercise
- Web + Untangle app access
同时在处理不止一件事?相关项目可以打包在一起——两个或三个可享折扣。套餐定价即将推出。
在开始Speak Up之前先深入了解
- Assertiveness Training: A CBT Approach to Speaking UpAssertiveness is a learnable CBT skill, not a personality trait. Here's a step-by-step framework for saying what you need clearly and calmly.8 min read 分钟阅读
- DEAR MAN: DBT Scripts for Hard ConversationsDEAR MAN is a DBT framework for asking for what you need or saying no clearly, with real scripts for common, hard conversations.8 min read 分钟阅读
开始之前
Will this make me blunt or aggressive?
No — the opposite. Speak Up teaches the formula, not a bluntness level; how directly you turn it up is entirely your call. The skill is getting your needs into the room, in whatever voice fits it.
What if speaking up isn't safe in my relationship?
The onboarding screen checks for that directly. Where speaking up has been met with violence, threats, or escalating control, the program pauses that track and points you to specialist safety-planning services instead — that's a limit on the method, not on you.
Isn't this just about saying no more?
Saying no is one piece, not the whole thing. The program also builds the sentence for asking, delivers it, and tests your predicted reactions against what actually happens — the full range of getting a need heard, not just refusing one.
How much time does it take?
A twenty-second check-in each evening, and a forty-five-second log whenever a real opportunity comes up, plus ten to fifteen minutes most days for the session. The real work happens in the room, not the app.
费用是多少?是订阅制吗?
第一周免费,无需信用卡。完整项目费用为$99,一次性付费——没有订阅,也无需取消。完成后即永久归你所有。
我怎么知道它是否有效?
你会在开始时完成一份经过验证的问卷,之后每次每周复盘时再次填写,因此进展是一个可以观察的数字,而不是一个连续打卡记录。在6次每周复盘中,项目会根据你自己的数据调整你的计划——如果这个数字没有变化,你也会看到。
Speak up
Start the first week of Speak Up free — onboarding, two full sessions, your daily log, and your baseline report. Continue only if it's working.
Runs on the web, not in DBT Coach
第一周无需绑卡。完整项目为一次性付费$99——不是订阅。
Runs on the web, not in DBT Coach