Программы · Grief & loss · Still Here
Still Here
Living with grief and loss using DBT skills
Grief doesn't move in stages, and it isn't a problem this program is built to solve. It moves in waves — unpredictable, on no timetable anyone gets to set. Still Here teaches DBT skills for living alongside those waves: watching one crest and recede without fighting it or drowning in it, taking small, freely chosen steps back toward living without leaving the loss behind, and carrying a bond forward instead of being asked to close it.
This is for you if
- You're carrying a loss and tired of being told you should be further along.
- The waves arrive without warning and on nobody's timetable.
- People around you don't know what to say — or say the wrong thing confidently.
- You've been offered stages, closure, or "moving on", and none of it fit.
- You want skills for living alongside grief, not a promise it will end.
Two logs that report, and never prescribe
Not a course you watch, and not a plan that tells you what to fix. Still Here keeps two records — the waves as they come, and the life still being built — and every weekly review reports them back without a single instruction.
Measure
A sixty-second grief-wave log whenever one comes, and a light daily note of any meaningful action — no schedule on the first, no pressure on the second.
as it happens + dailyLearn
Short sessions with Mika teach the method — waves not stages, mindfulness of a wave, acceptance aimed at the loss, and the words for other people.
10–15 min · most daysAdjust
Nothing is adjusted. Every review reports what your logs show and stops there — deliberately, at every week.
weekly review · report only↻ the loop runs weekly — six times, reporting each time
Every other program here prescribes something — a rung, a ceiling, a focus for the week. This one prescribes nothing, on purpose. There is no ranked skill list, no recommended emphasis, and no number you're meant to move. Your logs build a record that the waves are real, that something helps sometimes, and that a life is still being built. That's the whole instrument.
Six weeks, one method
Fifteen sessions and five weekly reviews. The first week is free — including your baseline record.
Week 1How Grief Actually MovesWaves, not stages — and both halves of the picture3 сессий
Week 2Riding the WaveMindfulness, acceptance, and the myths set down4 сессий
Week 3RestorationSmall steps back toward living, and the other half honored4 сессий
Week 4Other People's Grief-BlindnessHard dates, and the words for other people4 сессий
Week 5Carrying It ForwardThe reframe, the central image, and the standing plan4 сессий
Week 6Still HereYour data, and where next1 сессий
Mika
DBT: mindfulness & acceptance · ведёт 4 программ
The mindfulness and acceptance guide — quiet, unrushed, comfortable sitting with things that can't be fixed. Mika teaches the difference between what you can change and what you can only carry.
“Hi, I'm Mika. Over the next six weeks I'm not going to move you through stages or ask you to let go — we're going to build the skills for living alongside the waves, and keep a record of the life you're still building.”
The dual-process model, taught through DBT
Still Here is built on Stroebe and Schut's dual-process model of grief — oscillation between loss-orientation and restoration-orientation, both necessary, neither more healed than the other. The mechanics are DBT's: radical acceptance aimed at the fact of the loss and never at feeling less about it, mindfulness of a current emotion applied to a grief wave, and meaningful action as the restoration engine.
- Dual-process model of griefStroebe & Schut
- Radical acceptance, aimed at the fact of the loss
- Mindfulness of a current emotion
- Meaningful action as restoration
Three different answers, never blended
A very recent loss is a soft caution and never a lockout — it opens an immediate-support path with the full program available whenever you're ready, at your own say-so. Signals of complicated or prolonged grief open a lighter mode that runs alongside a named specialist referral, never instead of it, and it is not a content lockout. Suicidal ideation is the one hard gate here, holding everything past onboarding until support is confirmed.
A crisis-resources card is pinned for every user from onboarding onward, whatever their answers. Sudden or traumatic loss, and not currently being in professional care, are both non-gating — they produce a plain note, not a barrier. This is not medical advice, not grief therapy, and not a substitute for a bereavement group or a grief specialist.
Still Here на фоне рынка
| Still HereResiliens | My Grief My Waymygriefmyway.co.uk | Grief Works (Julia Samuel)griefworks.com | Help Textshelptexts.com | |
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| Цена | $149 разовый платёж (черновик) — программа остаётся вашей | Free — no registration required | £29.99/month billed annually (£359.88/year), or $39.99/month ($479.88/year) | $9.99/month, cancel anytime |
| Структура | 6 недель · 15 сессий + еженедельные обзоры | Five modules — real stories, understanding grief, ideas and practices, wellbeing and lifestyle, resources — with the practices module built on the ACT triflex. Self-paced, not a fixed-length course | 28 guided sessions and 40+ tools, wrapped in live provision — weekly Healing Circles, daily live meditations, and monthly Q&A with Julia Samuel | Texts twice a week for as long as you want them — no curriculum, no end date, and deliberately nothing to log in to |
| Персонализация | Grief-wave log + meaningful-action log → a record, not a verdict | None | Not documented beyond the guided path | Genuinely personalised by type of loss, relationship to the person who died, and cause of death — including suicide, overdose, stillbirth and dementia. Up to two supporters can be added and coached on how to help you |
| Поддержка человека | Самостоятельное прохождение · встроенные механизмы направления к клиницисту | None — fully self-guided | Substantial, and the reason for the price: one-to-one messaging with bereavement counsellors, 9am–9pm. Not a self-guided product | None by design — fully automated, and it advertises that you never have to speak to anyone |
| Доступ | Самообслуживание, начните сегодня | Free and open on the web, no account | Direct-to-consumer subscription; also runs free weekly live sessions open to anyone | Direct-to-consumer subscription, plus institutional distribution |
| Охват | Каталог из 24+ программ · объединяйте 2-3 связанные программы и экономьте | Dedicated to bereavement, and notably it already rejects stage models ('many paths through the forest of grief') and uses continuing-bonds language | Dedicated to grief, built on Samuel's Eight Pillars of Strength — which lead with continuing bonds and endorse oscillation explicitly | Dedicated to grief support, but as ongoing contact rather than skills training |
| Платформы | Web · iOS · Android | Web | iOS · Android · Web | Web |
Источники: цены конкурентов и страницы программ — каждое рабочее значение сопровождается URL источника и датой доступа, а неопубликованные факты помечены как «не опубликовано», а не угадываются.
Почему мы сделали это иначе
- Six weeks with an end, and no counsellor to schedule. The structured options in grief come wrapped in live human support and priced for it. The self-guided options are open libraries you dip into. Still Here is a bounded curriculum you finish — and then keep.
- Two records, kept side by side. A grief-wave log and a meaningful-action log, held together, so the record shows both halves: the waves as they come, and the life still visibly being built alongside them.
- It reports, and never prescribes. Every other program in this catalog sets a target for the week. This one deliberately sets none — no ranked skills, no recommended focus, nothing to fall behind on. Grief isn't a performance to optimise.
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Первая неделя
- Onboarding + two full sessions
- Grief-wave log + meaningful-action log
- Your baseline record
Полная программа
- All six weeks of Still Here, yours to keep
- Every session, review, and exercise
- Web + Untangle app access
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Перед началом
Will this make my grief smaller?
No, and that was never on offer. Nothing here measures success as less grief. What the record shows is that you're navigating the waves with more skill than you had six weeks ago, and that a life is still being built alongside the loss.
Is this the five stages of grief?
No — the program opens by setting that model down. Grief moves in waves, not stages, and the framework here is the dual-process model: oscillating between facing the loss and facing life, with neither treated as the healthier half.
Will it ask me to move on or find closure?
No. Week five reframes "moving on" directly, and the whole program is built around carrying a bond forward rather than closing one.
My loss was very recent. Should I wait?
That's yours to decide. A recent loss opens an immediate-support path rather than the full program, with everything available whenever you're ready — it's a caution, never a lockout.
Be first to carry it forward
Still Here is launching soon on the web and in the Untangle app. Join the early-access list and we'll let you know the moment it opens.
Одно письмо, когда откроется ваша программа. Без рассылок.